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   * **q'umok** \\ //stranger// \\ \\ A q'umok relationship can be understood to be roughly analogous to the prerequisite for a human handshake. It allows mutual light preening and open conversation. Any interaction with each others' necks or underbellies is prohibited. \\ \\ This is the default relationship kavkema have with each other when they meet. Deviations may occur if the person met is of some fame (be it positive or negative), in which case initial impressions may be either **yai-se͡ira** or **kaaru**. Absent this fame (or sometimes, in sufficiently sceptical individuals, even present such fame) the only way to transcend a **q'umok** relationship is to become used to each others' scent. \\ \\
-  * **ita** \\ //loose friend// \\ \\ An ita relationship can be understood to be roughly analogous to casual human friendship. It allows full upper body preening and short stints of rubbing muzzles against each others' flanks; however, underbellies are fair game only if both parties agree to it. \\ \\ Having only ita relationships is not a stable configuration for a kavkem psyche. It's still very distant for them, since it disallows some of the physical contact they consider vital part of polite social interaction. \\ The relationship may progress to something more after growing up together (the two to three formative years kavkema would consider childhood), living together for the same duration, or (regrettably very frequent in recent decades) when there aren't any other options to bond with and time is scarce and both parties are willing. \\ \\
+  * **ita** \\ //loose friend// \\ \\ An ita relationship can be understood to be roughly analogous to casual human friendship. It allows full upper body preening and short stints of rubbing muzzles against each others' flanks; however, underbellies are fair game only if both parties agree to it. \\ \\ Having only ita relationships is not a stable configuration for a kavkem psyche. It's still very distant for them, since it disallows some of the physical contact they consider vital part of polite social interaction. \\ \\ The relationship may progress to something more after growing up together (the two to three formative years kavkema would consider childhood), living together for the same duration, or (regrettably very frequent in recent decades) when there aren't any other options to bond with and time is scarce and both parties are willing. \\ \\
   * **se͡ira** \\ //close friend// \\ \\ A se͡ira relationship might best be compared to a close human friendship, although it differs in several important ways: In difference to a human close friendship, se͡ira is a sexual relationship - strictly non-procreative, but nonetheless rather intimate. On the other hand, a se͡ira relationship lacks some of the traits humans might consider essential to a close friendship - spending much time together or trusting each other with one's life. In those aspects, it is far more casual. Any sexual interactions fill a niche similar to board game nights or parties for humans - it's a //social past time//. \\ \\ Presumably, the evolutionary reason the **ita** stage of kavkem acquaintance even bothered to develop is to ensure that any diseases were easy to make out before engaging in any sexual activity. \\ \\
   * **yai-se͡ira** \\ //best friend// \\ \\ An optional relationship stage amongst kavkema and when present, often a fleeting interim stage before it becomes **amanat**, the yai-se͡ira relationship is triggered by a great favour being done between the kavkema. This may be something as heroic as saving the others' life during a hunt gone awry or something as superficially mundane as trekking for several months to meet up, or searching for each other when it's unclear whether there's anyone left to search for. (However, this is kept distinct from chance encounters in the wild, and it would be difficult to fake the body language to pretend that a chance encounter was actually a 'great favour' in retrospect.) \\ \\ In either case, there's nothing subtle about the transition from **se͡ira** to yai-se͡ira. If the **se͡ira** relationship was emotionally only luke-warm between the kavkema before the event, it usually changes drastically and for the better. \\ \\ A yai-se͡ira relationship bears more than passing semblance to close friendship as humans as understand it - kavkema that've reached this phase of intimacy will spend a lot of time together and trust each other completely. They don't usually bother to have more sexual interactions than they had before, though. \\ \\